Thursday, February 3, 2011
Scared to end a friendship?
If you are just friends with someone because you're scared of them and scared that they're gonna give out your informations after you're not being friends with them anymore.
You know what you do? You be the first one to air you're dirty laundry and you take off those underwear and you sling the shit in the air and you say ''OH WOW, Heres my dirty laundry baby, and WHAT?''
Be the first one to tell what ever it is that you're scared of them telling.
Dont EVER let Fear be a reason for continuing a friendship cause thats not a friendship, That is a sinking ship.
One of the best ways to tell if someone is your bestfriends or not is just to stop being friends with them and see how they react and see what they do when you stop talking to them. If they give out your secrets, then you were justified for not talking to them anymore.
I do think that friends expire, I mean Hello?
The Best of us and the Worse of us, stop being friends with our friends at some point in life.
So, if you've been friends with someone since Middle school... Dont feel bad about graduating from class okay?
Because what i think is that, when you just know a person., You would always want to give a good first impression. Dont feel bad if you're one of them, because everyone is just the same. We always want to give a first good impression.
Its like, you've been friends with someone for a really long time(or not) and you randomly get into a fight and you think to yourself like ''Wait, how could we be fighting over this? dont they know me? Dont they know that this is a sensitive subject for me?'' This and this and that.
What i think that you have to remember is that, in friendships a lot of time people start making you out to be something you're not AND vice versa.
I know with a lot of MY friends, they know im a tell-it-like-it-is person in the beginning.
Heres what interesting. In the beginning, they know who i really am even when we're not as close. But as we get closer and the friendship starts to build, they start to know me lesser and lesser, Because they start cherry picking what THEY want to see in my personality.
Lke for instants, im a tell-it-like-it-is person and very cold at times so my friends is like ''See the good in me'' and try to see the heart and the sensitive side of me and like.. Oh my god.
See all of me, or see nothing.
And i think thats what im learning in friendship that i need my friends to see me as i am completely. Dont ignore any part of your friend. If you dont like something about your friend and you just cant stand it, dont ignore it. Talk to them about it. and figure if you could work it out.
Because heres a thing, if you are literally ignoring a part of someone. Its just like trying to see like Half of their face like.. its not gonna happen?
So if you cant stand something with somebody that you're close with, you have to evaluate their relationship. Im just sick of people cherry picking what they want to see in me. Erm its like making excusing for me, only wanting to see the good and never the bad. Trying to see my heart and not seeing the bitch in me.
Like no, You became friends with me, you didnt became friends with a sweet cuddle bunny okay? So quit trying to see my heart and face the dark in me. Cause my ''other'' side doesnt like to be excused especially by any of my friends and if you're questioning why am i so direct to my friends, its because they are only trying to see the half of me.
So see it all, or close your eyes completely, honey.
Bye
UngratefulAss?
@JonathanRAWRR
10:45 PM
